No baby has ever come out of the womb unsure of its cry or insecure about its large umbilical cord. They arrive blissfully unaware of external judgment and remain concerned only with their own experience and needs. I’m not suggesting that we should be oblivious to other people, but I think it helps to remember that confidence was our original nature before it got chiselled away over time.

Self-doubt and self-criticism are behaviours we learned as children and still run in the lives of many adults today. As we awaken, we become aware of this and begin to question it. Why do I think that about myself? When did I hear that? The answers can be confronting but remembering where and when we lost our confidence can help us to reclaim it.

I’ve found that people often think confidence means knowing you can create the outcome you desire. But being confidence doesn’t make you unsusceptible to the ups and downs of life. No matter how talented, smart, or capable you are, you cannot predict or control everything that happens in your life. Confident people lose jobs, relationships and sometimes their health.

I feel that true confidence comes from knowing you are competent while also acknowledging you are not solely responsible for creating your world. When you take that weight off your shoulders, you realise that sometimes the twists and turns of life have nothing to do with you.

I experienced such a twist when I first moved overseas. I got a job interview and had no appropriate clothes to wear. At first, I didn’t know what I was going to do, but then I found a sewing machine and got some fabric. I made a skirt and jacket and yes! I got the job! It was a situation beyond my control but I had confidence in my ability to make the clothes I needed. I took action and I got the result I wanted. Want to take the first step to real confidence book a free mindset coaching consultation today.

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